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Join us for a transformative conversation with the inspiring Dr. Niva Jerath and legendary tennis coach Rick Macci as we dive into the power of perspective, resilience, and gratitude. In this compelling episode, we explore their collaboration on the book “Billion Dollar Mind,” where they share actionable insights for reprogramming your internal dialogue to overcome challenges, cultivate joy, and build mental toughness for both everyday life and extraordinary achievements.
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Unlocking Mental Strength Through Resilience
Alanna
0:02
Welcome
to
EndoBattery
,
where
I
share
my
journey
with
endometriosis
and
chronic
illness
,
while
learning
and
growing
along
the
way
.
This
podcast
is
not
a
substitute
for
medical
advice
,
but
a
supportive
space
to
provide
community
and
valuable
information
so
you
never
have
to
face
this
journey
alone
.
We
embrace
a
range
of
perspectives
that
may
not
always
align
with
our
own
.
Believing
that
open
dialogue
helps
us
grow
and
gain
new
tools
always
align
with
our
own
.
Believing
that
open
dialogue
helps
us
grow
and
gain
new
tools
.
Join
me
as
I
share
stories
of
strength
,
resilience
and
hope
,
from
personal
experiences
to
expert
insights
.
I'm
your
host
,
alana
,
and
this
is
EndoBattery
charging
our
lives
when
endometriosis
drains
us
.
Welcome
back
to
EndoBattery
.
Grab
your
cup
of
coffee
or
your
cup
of
tea
and
join
me
at
the
table
.
Today
.
I'm
absolutely
thrilled
to
be
joined
at
the
table
by
two
extraordinary
guests
whose
expertise
and
passion
are
sure
to
leave
you
inspired
.
Alanna
0:55
First
we
have
Dr
Navita
Jareth
,
better
known
as
Dr
Niva
,
an
unstoppable
force
in
neuromuscular
medicine
.
With
training
from
Harvard
,
the
Mayo
Clinic
and
the
University
of
Iowa
,
dr
Niva
has
dedicated
her
career
to
solving
some
of
the
most
challenging
neuromuscular
cases
.
She
leads
nationally
recognized
programs
,
driving
groundbreaking
research
in
muscular
dystrophy
and
clinic
trials
,
and
champions
her
patients'
resilience
and
achievements
.
Fun
fact
,
she's
also
a
former
junior
tennis
champion
who
trained
with
today's
second
guest
,
the
legendary
Rick
Macci
.
Rick
Macci
is
a
name
synonymous
with
greatness
in
tennis
.
As
the
coach
behind
some
of
the
sport's
biggest
stars
,
like
Venus
and
Serena
Williams
,
maria
Shapova
and
Andy
Roddick
,
rick
is
known
for
his
unique
ability
to
transform
not
just
players'
games
but
also
their
mindset
.
As
seven-time
USPTA
Coach
of
the
Year
in
Hall
of
Fame
inductee
,
rick
has
been
a
lifelong
advocate
for
using
mental
fitness
to
elevate
physical
performance
.
Alanna
1:56
But
here's
where
it
gets
exciting
.
Dr
Niva
and
Rick
have
teamed
up
to
co-author
a
powerful
book
,
Billion
Dollar
Mind
,
where
they
combine
their
expertise
in
neurology
and
coaching
to
explore
the
secrets
of
mental
strength
,
resilience
and
achieving
your
full
potential
.
Together
,
they've
created
a
guide
to
unlocking
the
mindset
that
leads
to
success
,
whether
it's
on
the
tennis
court
,
in
the
clinic
or
in
everyday
life
.
So
grab
that
cup
of
coffee
or
tea
and
join
me
at
the
table
as
we
get
ready
to
hear
from
two
extraordinary
individuals
about
resilience
,
mindset
and
how
to
level
up
in
every
area
of
your
life
.
Alanna
2:33
Please
help
me
in
welcoming
Dr
Niva
Jareth
and
Rick
Macci
.
Thank
you
both
for
joining
me
today
.
I'm
excited
to
have
this
conversation
.
It's
kind
of
a
unique
conversation
than
what
I've
had
in
the
past
and
so
I'm
excited
to
kind
of
shift
our
mindset
,
if
you
will
,
into
this
new
topic
of
mindset
and
discipline
and
thinking
outside
the
box
,
into
positivity
and
how
that
can
help
us
grow
within
our
own
journey
.
So
thank
you
both
so
much
for
taking
the
time
to
sit
down
with
me
and
talk
about
this
.
Rick Macci
3:07
Thanks
for
having
me
.
Thank
you
for
having
me
.
Alanna
3:09
Yes
,
tell
us
just
a
little
bit
about
your
book
and
your
journeys
to
get
to
that
place
.
In
writing
the
book
.
Rick Macci
3:18
I'll
let
Nev
go
first
.
Go
ahead
.
Dr. Niva
3:20
I
think
smoke
is
really
important
.
It's
a
fundamental
tool
for
improving
our
mindset
and
having
a
control
over
our
mind
.
And
what
I
realized
was
that
one
day
I
realized
I
could
be
happy
in
one
moment
and
the
next
moment
I
could
be
sad
,
and
the
next
moment
I
could
be
afraid
.
And
it
was
all
generated
by
me
.
I
found
out
because
I
was
having
a
rough
day
one
time
and
so
I
was
biking
and
I
was
doing
this
long
10-mile
bike
ride
up
and
down
hills
and
I
just
kept
thinking
of
the
same
thoughts
of
the
past
.
I
said
how
can
I
get
rid
of
these
thoughts
?
They
just
make
me
so
sad
.
And
then
,
all
of
a
sudden
,
I
met
a
couple
and
started
talking
to
them
.
And
then
we
ran
to
look
in
the
pond
and
there
was
a
turtle
floating
.
I
was
like
,
oh
gosh
,
these
moments
are
so
precious
and
made
me
so
happy
.
It
was
full
of
joy
.
Dr. Niva
4:08
I
was
like
living
in
the
present
moment
and
my
thoughts
were
so
distracted
by
the
present
and
I
realized
,
gosh
,
why
our
thoughts
are
so
fricking
.
Like
we're
going
from
bike
riding
nine
miles
a
night
just
thinking
about
the
past
and
the
sadness
,
and
all
of
a
sudden
,
just
getting
distracted
changed
the
way
I
felt
.
I
said
,
wow
,
there's
so
much
power
within
us
.
And
how
do
I
conquer
that
?
How
do
I
decipher
that
?
How
do
I
decode
it
?
We
know
how
to
decode
computers
right
Computer
programming
.
How
do
we
computer
programming
?
How
do
we
reprogram
our
minds
so
they're
our
friends
?
How
do
we
make
our
thoughts
our
best
friends
?
How
do
we
think
the
right
way
so
they're
always
happy
and
full
of
joy
?
Rather
than
you
know
,
having
some
external
experience
dictate
that
,
or
a
sudden
,
you
know
change
and
somebody
says
something
or
a
little
thing
,
or
you
know
.
So
how
do
we
generate
that
from
within
?
And
that's
what
the
book
is
fundamentally
about
.
It's
the
secrets
on
how
to
control
our
mind
and
our
thoughts
.
Alanna
5:05
Rick
,
how
is
this
for
you
?
Rick Macci
5:08
Okay
,
now
Nib
is
down
the
road
a
little
bit
,
but
I'm
going
to
back
the
truck
up
.
Okay
,
I
got
to
go
back
and
let
all
the
people
listening
I
actually
taught
her
and
her
twin
sister
back
in
the
day
,
okay
,
when
they
were
she
was
16
years
old
,
number
one
player
in
the
South
.
She
was
a
great
tennis
player
,
made
the
right
decision
,
went
to
Harvard
one
of
the
best
doctors
in
the
world
.
So
I
think
she
made
the
right
decision
.
But
you
know
,
her
kids
came
to
the
academy
a
little
bit
,
always
kind
of
stayed
in
touch
.
And
one
day
she
asked
me
about
doing
a
book
about
mental
strength
and
this
is
right
up
my
wheelhouse
.
Rick Macci
5:46
I'm
probably
more
a
life
coach
as
much
as
a
tennis
coach
.
You
know
,
people
know
me
with
Venus
,
serena
Capriotti
,
roddick
,
sharapova
,
moschino
,
pierce
Kennan
all
these
people
that
won
Grand
Slams
or
have
been
number
one
.
But
I
deal
more
with
the
well
,
not
more
as
much
with
the
mental
part
.
Okay
,
and
how
to
flip
the
script
.
Take
a
negative
turn
a
positive
,
because
in
the
game
of
tennis
you
got
20
seconds
to
flip
it
in
your
mind
,
like
it
happened
20
years
ago
.
They
have
approached
me
about
this
and
the
medical
point
of
view
.
Ok
,
the
science
point
of
view
,
and
then
me
being
in
the
trenches
and
doing
this
my
whole
life
.
It
was
a
match
made
in
heaven
.
Rick Macci
6:33
And
now
that
we've
done
the
book
,
not
only
has
it
become
a
bestseller
.
If
people
come
back
and
say
it
changed
my
life
OK
,
and
I
don't
change
strokes
,
I
changed
slides
on
the
tennis
court
.
So
to
me
I
don't
want
to
say
it
kind
of
validated
everything
I've
done
through
my
whole
career
,
but
it's
been
so
fulfilling
simply
because
the
wild
card
is
this
right
here
tennis
and
the
game
of
life
.
It's
a
game
of
inches
from
one
ear
to
another
and
it's
about
perspective
and
how
you
look
at
it
.
So
when
we
teamed
up
to
do
the
book
,
it
was
really
a
powerhouse
combination
,
a
dynamic
duo
,
because
she's
dealing
it
from
the
doctor
point
of
view
and
I'm
dealing
it
from
you
know
made
a
lot
of
champions
.
Besides
,
changed
a
lot
of
people's
lives
.
So
there's
so
many
gold
nuggets
in
the
book
.
It's
one
of
the
best
things
I've
ever
done
in
my
life
.
Alanna
7:24
That's
such
a
great
way
to
put
it
.
Mastering Resilience Through Perspective
Alanna
7:27
There's
one
word
you
said
in
there
that
I
live
by
.
This
is
the
word
that
is
my
.
I
feel
like
we
have
.
You
know
,
we
make
New
Year's
resolutions
or
we
have
a
word
of
the
year
that
we're
going
to
practice
right
,
my
life
word
.
I
have
one
word
in
life
that
I
live
by
,
and
that
word
is
perspective
,
because
perspective
.
Rick Macci
7:46
I
knew
you
were
going
to
say
that
.
I
knew
you
were
going
to
say
that
you
know
what
and
when
you
do
that
,
you
look
at
the
world
through
a
different
lens
.
You
do
Go
ahead
.
Alanna
7:53
Yeah
.
So
perspective
to
me
is
if
you
walk
circumspect
,
right
,
broadly
,
look
around
,
you
see
things
differently
.
If
you
are
looking
very
narrow
,
you're
missing
out
on
a
lot
of
the
pieces
that
are
going
to
help
you
pave
this
road
forward
.
And
so
I'm
a
big
believer
in
,
no
matter
where
our
journey
takes
us
,
if
we
walk
circumspect
,
with
perspective
,
we
have
a
greater
understanding
of
ourselves
,
of
our
environment
,
of
our
purpose
and
of
our
future
,
of
where
we
want
to
go
.
It's
easier
to
work
through
the
challenges
of
life
with
perspective
,
and
I
also
think
it
helps
with
connection
,
and
as
humans
,
we
need
connection
to
feel
validated
.
Like
you
said
,
we
need
connection
to
be
able
to
feel
seen
,
heard
,
feel
like
we're
part
of
something
.
And
if
you
walk
introspective
,
you
don't
have
and
don't
have
the
perspective
of
others
in
your
circle
.
You're
missing
out
on
that
fullness
of
community
.
And
that's
why
perspective
to
me
,
when
you
said
that
is
a
big
key
to
my
life
,
that
is
my
life
word
,
because
I
want
to
walk
with
perspective
.
Dr. Niva
9:11
I
was
going
to
ask
Rick
that
I
think
it
was
a
dream
come
true
that
he
said
yes
Because
I
had
come
to
appreciate
him
for
an
award
for
women
in
leadership
and
I
come
down
.
I
never
even
expected
he
would
say
yes
for
the
award
for
,
like
women
in
leadership
and
I
come
down
.
I
never
even
expected
he
would
say
yes
for
the
award
.
He
took
a
picture
and
and
then
,
just
underneath
my
breath
,
I
was
like
no
,
I
got
an
idea
for
a
book
.
He
has
motivational
sayings
all
over
his
academy
and
I
was
always
motivated
and
encouraged
by
them
.
Every
time
I
would
come
there
and
change
my
the
way
of
thinking
,
like
he
said
,
the
perspective
,
and
it
was
,
like
you
know
,
just
this
sort
of
think
big
,
be
big
.
It
just
made
me
feel
so
,
so
encouraged
,
like
I
gotta
,
I
gotta
be
better
than
what
I
am
.
And
so
I
thought
I
was
like
okay
,
you
know
,
I
have
an
idea
about
a
book
,
I'm
just
whispering
it
and
I
was
impressed
.
I
couldn't
even
imagine
that
after
I
told
him
about
the
book
idea
.
Dr. Niva
10:04
But
two
,
two
weeks
later
,
it
was
like
yesterday
.
It
was
like
in
the
middle
of
this
busy
clinic
with
patients
,
I
was
seeing
like
two
patients
.
I
was
like
so
exhausted
I
was
going
home
and
I
get
a
text
message
Where's
the
book
.
I
was
like
let's
go
.
That's
cool
,
that's
cool
.
I
was
like
this
is
a
dream
come
true
.
No
one
has
ever
really
committed
to
something
like
working
as
hard
.
You
got
book
ideas
that
take
a
lot
of
time
.
It's
a
lot
of
work
and
I
just
ran
home
that
day
and
started
writing
.
But
I
remember
that
positivity
and
recognizing
it
was
like
everything
went
exponential
.
It
was
like
on
fire
.
We
were
just
great
.
I
mean
just
together
.
It
was
just
he
was
positive
.
I
loved
his
positivity
.
It
was
like
on
fire
.
We
were
just
great
.
I
mean
just
together
.
It
was
just
he
was
positive
.
I
loved
his
positivity
.
It
fed
into
my
positivity
and
that's
how
the
book
came
out
.
Rick Macci
10:49
So
really
great
,
let's
get
a
perspective
.
You
know
this
has
to
be
right
in
my
wheelhouse
and
the
leader
in
a
clubhouse
,
because
I
always
tell
people
what
you
may
see
is
different
than
Rick
may
see
,
right
,
this
,
what
you
may
see
,
is
different
than
Rick
may
see
,
right
,
this
is
.
It's
a
whole
different
way
of
looking
at
it
.
It
almost
is
what
it
isn't
.
You
got
to
be
able
to
flip
it
how
you
respond
to
things
,
and
it's
not
even
about
tennis
.
What
I
do
,
it's
everything
Right
.
And
once
you
get
on
that
hamster
wheel
and
you
train
your
brain
to
react
certain
ways
,
the
way
you
handle
things
,
I
mean
it's
better
for
your
health
.
The
ripple
effect
or
the
cascading
effect
is
even
more
powerful
than
the
actual
moment
.
But
people
let
things
control
them
instead
of
you
controlling
the
situation
brick
by
brick
.
And
you
can
relate
,
because
when
you
said
perspective
,
okay
,
this
podcast
is
now
the
leader
of
Clubhouse
because
we're
on
the
same
wavelength
and
it
all
starts
with
mindset
.
Yeah
,
perspective
is
what
it's
all
about
.
Alanna
11:53
Yes
,
I
want
to
break
down
just
a
little
bit
of
what
you
were
talking
about
just
the
mindset
and
the
way
that
we
kind
of
control
that
,
and
I
want
to
break
down
just
a
couple
of
the
things
that
you
said
and
we'll
kind
of
expand
this
a
little
bit
.
And
you
have
talked
about
this
in
the
book
.
But
specifically
,
how
can
mental
resilience
techniques
that
you
talk
about
in
the
book
help
individuals
dealing
with
chronic
illness
?
Because
I
mean
,
I
think
this
is
a
really
hard
thing
for
those
that
are
walking
through
life
challenges
that
are
really
almost
out
of
their
control
.
But
there's
got
to
be
some
techniques
and
you've
written
about
these
that
can
help
kind
of
navigate
that
.
Dr. Niva
12:33
Absolutely
.
I
love
that
question
because
I
do
that
every
day
in
the
clinic
,
yeah
,
and
I
can
give
you
two
examples
.
For
one
thing
,
and
my
patients
are
all
struggling
with
chronic
pain
and
chronic
illness
.
And
the
most
important
technique
I
think
we're
talking
about
perspective
and
reframing
,
but
one
of
the
main
things
is
gratitude
.
As
soon
as
we
fill
up
our
parts
of
gratitude
,
we
see
things
so
differently
.
And
I
can
give
an
example
I'll
never
forget
.
Dr. Niva
12:57
I
was
a
medical
student
at
Mayo
Clinic
and
all
the
kids
were
complaining
that
they
had
to
work
so
hard
that
they
don't
get
any
sleep
,
they
have
to
study
and
they
don't
have
a
life
.
And
I'll
never
forget
.
Our
dean
told
us
she
said
go
and
she
said
today's
exercise
all
you
guys
are
complaining
.
She
was
at
the
auditorium
.
The
friars
were
like
all
of
you
are
complaining
.
I
want
you
all
to
go
to
the
lobby
of
the
Mayo
Clinic
in
Rochester
,
minnesota
,
and
just
sit
there
for
20
minutes
and
watch
.
Okay
,
now
,
we
all
sat
there
.
I
remember
watching
.
There's
a
beautiful
chandelier
,
beautiful
forest
.
Dr. Niva
13:33
There
you
see
the
sickest
kids
that
have
maybe
three
or
four
months
left
to
live
.
You
see
a
kid
having
a
seizure
.
You're
seeing
another
person
with
a
leg
cut
off
,
another
one
with
their
arm
cut
off
,
and
then
you
see
someone
,
like
you
know
,
with
dementia
and
their
family
members
pushing
them
,
and
someone
with
a
brain
tumor
,
and
all
of
a
sudden
there's
no
more
complaining
.
Yeah
,
because
you're
,
like
,
appreciative
of
what
you
have
.
So
it
doesn't
mean
that
you
minimize
what
you're
having
.
I
mean
,
everybody
has
troubles
and
pains
,
but
it's
a
combination
of
gratitude
and
perspective
and
recognizing
that
if
we're
grateful
for
what
we
have
,
then
all
of
a
sudden
everything
else
is
not
as
.
It's
a
way
,
it's
a
technique
to
get
out
of
the
pain
,
maybe
to
improve
it
,
and
it's
a
feel
,
the
situation
in
a
different
way
.
And
that's
what
you're
talking
about
perspective
.
It
really
means
a
lot
.
Dr. Niva
14:23
The
second
aspect
I
remember
there's
another
story
I
had
was
when
I
was
in
the
clinic
last
week
when
a
patient
came
in
and
her
daughter
got
shot
by
mistake
at
35
,
you
know
,
incidental
homicide
,
and
she
loved
her
daughter
,
but
she
had
read
our
book
and
she
was
in
such
good
spirits
.
And
the
reason
why
?
Because
she
was
again
so
grateful
for
the
memories
she
had
.
She
said
at
least
,
my
daughter
is
35
years
old
and
I
got
to
live
with
her
for
35
years
and
I
got
to
have
beautiful
memories
with
her
and
she
didn't
think
about
the
homicide
.
She
thought
more
of
the
positive
memories
and
all
the
trips
she
went
with
her
daughter
and
she
just
really
was
full
of
gratitude
and
appreciation
.
Dr. Niva
14:59
And
Joyce
said
I'm
just
so
full
of
positivity
today
and
thank
you
so
much
,
this
book
changed
my
mind
.
I
wish
that
I'm
just
so
full
of
positivity
today
and
thank
you
so
much
.
This
book
changed
my
mind
.
So
it's
those
moments
that
really
make
a
big
difference
.
She
was
able
to
reprogram
her
mind
and
make
it
positive
and
thank
you
with
gratitude
and
kind
of
reframe
the
situation
.
So
it
worked
for
her
benefit
.
That's
why
like
our
mind
is
like
our
best
friend
.
Alanna
15:19
Yeah
,
absolutely
it
is
.
Can
you
explain
you
were
talking
about
just
going
through
that
and
changing
that
mindset
and
working
with
your
patients
on
this
,
but
can
you
explain
the
connection
between
the
neurological
and
mental
strength
and
managing
things
like
chronic
fatigue
or
the
unexplained
that
we
have
no
control
over
?
Yeah
,
the
correlation
between
those
two
.
Dr. Niva
15:43
I
think
about
the
mental
strength
,
mental
strength
to
manage
those
chronic
situations
.
There's
a
lot
of
technique
,
so
that's
a
big
topic
.
But
if
you
think
about
in
a
big
picture
point
of
view
,
right
,
when
someone's
tired
there's
obviously
maybe
a
biological
component
to
it
.
Some
people
might
have
anemia
or
whatever
,
you
know
,
they
might
be
out
sleeping
at
night
.
But
if
there's
an
additional
mental
piece
to
that
,
that
mental
piece
can
make
the
fatigue
worse
.
And
so
that's
why
we
kind
of
what
Rick
said
is
we're
going
to
feed
our
mind
positivity
,
kind
of
like
it's
its
own
medicine
.
Perspective and Positivity in Action
Dr. Niva
16:17
So
think
of
the
neurologic
system
,
it's
sensory
input
and
motor
output
,
right
.
So
whenever
we
have
sensory
input
,
we
have
like
good
thoughts
,
we
have
,
um
,
we
hear
good
things
,
we
see
good
things
that
are
positive
.
Our
motor
output
will
be
positive
.
And
that's
what
my
kid
she's
like
.
Oh
,
she's
like
what
?
What
does
positive
thinking
do
?
I
said
,
look
,
positive
thinking
creates
positive
action
.
So
I
know
that
if
people
are
struggling
with
fatigue
,
there
is
definitely
that
or
their
chronic
pain
,
but
if
they
have
those
positive
thoughts
feeding
in
,
that's
like
a
medicine
.
You
know
that's
going
to
give
them
some
positive
action
,
even
if
it's
not
like
they're
running
up
,
you
know
a
marathon
or
whatever
.
But
even
if
it's
a
small
thing
,
it's
that
sensory
input
,
it's
that
motor
output
.
Yeah
.
Rick Macci
16:59
Let
me
chime
in
here
because
I'm
backing
the
truck
up
once
again
.
You
know
we
go
back
to
perspective
Number
one
.
Everybody
listening
.
You
got
to
reframe
it
.
Number
one
,
you
should
always
appreciate
what
you
have
instead
of
what
you
don't
have
.
That's
the
starting
point
.
Thank
God
,
it's
every
day
,
don't
thank
God
,
it's
Friday
.
You
know
what
I
mean
.
Everybody
has
it
wrong
.
Because
then
what
happens
when
that's
a
starting
point
?
Rick Macci
17:28
Like
Nip
said
,
she's
at
the
Mayo
Clinic
and
you're
seeing
people
,
you
know
,
because
,
let's
face
it
,
tragedy
and
death
makes
people
take
a
deep
breath
and
they
change
everything
and
they
appreciate
a
little
bit
.
More
than
a
couple
of
weeks
go
by
and
they're
back
to
the
same
old
negativity
and
they
let
things
control
them
.
And
you've
got
to
get
into
this
routine
about
what
I
just
said
,
because
when
you're
in
a
routine
,
mentally
you
become
a
machine
.
You're
training
yourself
how
you're
going
to
look
at
it
.
Unfortunately
,
some
people
like
to
complain
and
they
like
problems
and
they
like
gossip
and
they
like
that
and
they
might
not
ever
want
to
change
,
you
know
.
So
that's
a
whole
different
thing
,
but
everybody
has
a
choice
.
Okay
,
and
positivity
is
the
leader
in
a
clubhouse
.
How
it
affects
your
nervous
system
.
Listen
when
people
lose
a
point
in
tennis
,
I
have
the
kids
smile
.
Okay
,
because
that's
not
what
you
want
to
do
.
You
know
you're
going
to
be
frustrated
and
this
is
the
same
thing
.
We
can
look
at
the
same
thing
,
all
three
of
us
.
We
might
see
something
very
different
,
but
we're
looking
at
the
same
thing
.
It's
how
we're
going
to
respond
to
it
mentally
.
No
one's
bulletproof
,
I'm
not
saying
whatever
.
We
can't
be
like
that
but
you
need
to
take
a
deep
breath
.
People
always
tell
you
count
to
10
,
count
to
100
,
whatever
it
might
be
.
Well
,
you
got
to
train
yourself
to
do
this
.
Rick Macci
18:49
It's
like
Niv
said
everybody's
aware
kind
of
what
they
put
in
their
mouth
,
but
they're
not
aware
what
they
put
into
their
brain
.
You
got
to
listen
to
motivational
speakers
.
You
got
to
motivate
yourself
.
Your
best
friend
is
the
mirror
.
You
should
be
talking
to
yourself
every
day
.
I
don't
know
if
you
want
to
have
people
around
when
you're
talking
to
yourself
,
but
this
is
very
important
.
Rick Macci
19:14
But
people
all
have
it
backwards
.
They
let
what
they
say
on
TV
affect
them
.
Everything
affects
us
.
You
control
the
situation
,
don't
let
it
control
you
.
It's
perspective
,
but
the
starting
point
is
appreciation
.
Like
Niv
said
,
gratitude
.
It's
perspective
,
but
the
starting
point
is
appreciation
,
like
Niv
said
,
gratitude
,
appreciate
what
you
have
.
Rick Macci
19:29
Yeah
,
because
if
everybody
,
everybody
would
say
,
well
,
if
I
could
do
that
over
again
,
or
if
I
could
go
back
in
time
,
or
what
the
heck
was
I
thinking
back
then
?
Or
what
?
Everybody
does
it
because
we're
human
.
No
one's
you
got
to
look
at
problems
as
an
opportunity
.
When
you
know
you're
going
to
have
problems
,
right
,
okay
,
don't
be
just
happy
on
your
birthday
or
Christmas
,
whatever
it's
.
No
,
you
can't
look
at
it
like
that
.
You
might
be
happier
,
right
,
other
people
are
affected
.
Rick Macci
19:55
This
is
very
important
,
but
people
don't
have
discipline
,
people
don't
want
to
change
.
You
know
and
I'm
kind
of
that
way
,
I'm
a
really
a
creature
of
habit
,
but
in
a
very
positive
way
the
way
I've
trained
my
mind
over
my
career
and
I
helped
so
many
others
,
okay
,
you
have
no
idea
,
and
that's
that's
what
they
need
to
hear
,
to
uplift
.
And
even
Niv
said
something
earlier
about
all
the
motivational
signs
around
the
academy
.
There's
like
a
hundred
.
One
word
can
change
a
child's
life
Absolutely
,
or
an
adult
or
adult
.
And
when
people
forget
the
ones
that
have
become
number
one
or
people
that
become
great
.
You
know
they're
wired
different
.
Everybody
can
run
and
jump
and
learn
the
biomechanics
of
how
to
hit
the
ball
,
but
how
they
look
at
it
.
That
separates
great
from
good
,
especially
in
sports
.
Yeah
.
Rick Macci
20:46
Okay
,
because
everybody
has
certain
genetics
and
all
that
stuff
.
So
at
the
end
of
the
day
,
it
all
starts
with
appreciating
what
you
have
,
and
you
got
to
tell
yourself
that
every
day
,
not
what
you
don't
have
.
Right
,
you
know
.
Right
,
and
this
is
key
for
anybody
listening
.
Okay
,
because
it's
a
matter
of
just
training
your
mind
.
So
if
you
want
to
be
better
about
what
we're
talking
about
,
be
aware
of
what
goes
in
here
,
not
just
what
goes
in
your
mouth
.
Listen
,
that
will
ripple
on
to
your
kids
,
to
your
friends
,
your
work
.
You'll
be
more
productive
.
You'll
just
look
at
things
so
much
different
.
You
know
so
much
different
.
Rick Macci
21:21
You
can't
like
,
just
because
it's
80
and
sunny
and
a
nice
breeze
,
it's
going
to
be
a
great
day
.
Some
people
get
up
and
they
say
it's
going
to
be
a
bad
day
.
I
don't
want
to
be
around
those
people
.
I
don't
know
what
they're
.
You
know
what
I'm
saying
.
Yeah
,
discipline
.
You
know
to
be
a
champion
in
anything
.
You
got
to
have
tremendous
discipline
because
you
got
all
these
forces
around
us
pulling
us
the
other
direction
Negative
people
,
the
TV
,
social
media
it's
like
it's
all
that
.
People
would
rather
see
the
train
wreck
sometimes
than
something
else
.
You
know
,
and
you
got
to
be
around
that
type
of
environment
type
of
environment
.
Yeah
,
that's
really
important
,
especially
for
parents
and
that
have
kids
.
You
got
to
really
be
careful
that
.
So
that's
my
sermon
on
a
Friday
afternoon
about
that
.
Alanna
22:12
No
,
it
is
good
.
Embracing Positivity Through Self-Reflection
Alanna
22:13
Sometimes
we
have
to
remind
ourselves
that
what
we
put
in
is
what
we
put
out
.
You
know
,
like
,
what
goes
in
comes
out
at
some
point
or
another
,
and
if
you
allow
the
negative
to
consume
you
,
that's
what
you
will
permeate
the
room
with
right
.
It's
important
to
remember
that
because
we
have
a
chronic
illness
for
a
lot
of
us
,
or
because
life
doesn't
always
happen
the
way
we
think
it's
going
to
happen
,
or
it
doesn't
pan
out
the
way
we
wish
it
would
have
,
doesn't
mean
that
it
defines
our
complete
life
and
that
we
have
the
ability
to
redirect
a
lot
of
that
based
off
of
what
we
can
control
.
And
no
one
else
can
control
our
mental
mindset
but
ourselves
.
Alanna
22:56
And
this
is
something
I
tell
my
kids
all
the
time
.
You
know
,
I
have
a
six-year-old
and
she
tells
me
today
is
just
not
going
to
be
a
good
day
,
and
I
was
like
excuse
me
,
because
you
didn't
get
what
you
wanted
,
you
know
.
And
I
say
no
,
it's
going
to
be
a
great
day
,
with
maybe
some
hard
moments
.
And
she
was
like
no
,
I'm
like
yes
,
because
we
all
have
hard
moments
,
and
I
think
that's
true
in
our
lives
as
well
,
and
why
I
like
that
mindset
is
because
our
lives
don't
have
to
be
bad
,
our
dailies
don't
have
to
be
bad
,
but
maybe
we
have
some
hard
moments
and
maybe
we
have
some
hard
and
challenging
times
,
but
it's
how
we
allow
ourselves
to
come
out
of
that
space
and
into
one
that's
healthy
and
thriving
and
is
allowing
us
to
have
a
better
quality
of
life
.
That's
what's
important
,
too
,
right
,
but
how
do
you
adapt
your
methods
to
creating
mental
health
routines
that
fit
the
unpredictable
nature
of
things
like
chronic
illness
and
life
?
Dr. Niva
24:05
I
can
chime
in
on
that
because
while
Rick
was
talking
,
I
was
like
well
,
you
just
mentioned
smile
.
Yeah
,
smile
is
free
.
It's
free
.
We
don't
have
to
go
to
the
pharmacy
to
get
it
.
We
don't
have
to
get
it
prescribed
by
anyone
.
We
don't
have
to
do
anything
to
get
it
.
It's
within
us
.
That's
what
this
whole
book
is
about
.
Dr. Niva
24:22
All
these
techniques
are
free
and
the
same
thing
occurs
.
You
have
to
deal
with
struggling
situations
,
like
if
someone
loses
a
point
in
tennis
,
they're
smiling
.
Same
thing
if
there's
a
bad
day
or
there's
a
difficult
situation
,
I
tend
to
smile
.
In
the
morning
,
you
can
get
up
and
smile
and
say
10
positive
things
about
yourself
and
get
into
that
routine
so
the
unpredictability
is
not
there
and
get
into
that
routine
so
the
unpredictability
is
not
.
There's
no
excuse
,
because
all
that
stuff
is
within
us
.
You
just
you
can't
enter
the
habit
.
It's
requires
discipline
.
My
first
set
you'll
have
to
train
your
mind
to
be
able
to
make
it
your
best
friend
and
to
be
able
to
come
up
with
techniques
that
are
just
within
you
,
right
,
saying
positive
things
to
yourself
,
loving
yourself
,
smiling
,
having
a
little
bit
of
humor
,
appreciating
others
and
also
the
things
that
you
can
do
,
and
having
a
good
,
just
our
own
mental
toolbox
and
we
all
realize
how
free
it
yeah
absolutely
.
Alanna
25:15
It
sounds
easy
,
right
,
but
then
we
also
are
human
and
it
is
a
struggle
.
When
life
is
is
hard
,
it
that
is
hard
sometimes
to
find
our
smile
and
I
think
that's
why
and
maybe
you
can
even
speak
on
this
why
community
matters
so
much
and
surrounding
yourself
with
people
that
can
support
you
and
be
that
smile
when
you're
having
a
hard
time
,
or
be
that
encouragement
when
you
don't
have
the
words
to
encourage
.
Remind
you
.
Dr. Niva
25:45
You
know
,
that's
the
thing
.
The
words
to
encourage
,
remind
you
,
that's
the
thing
.
You
have
to
have
people
that
remind
you
,
like
what
reminds
me
,
you
know
,
like
this
is
all
within
you
.
Like
,
look
in
the
mirror
,
it's
got
.
You
know
they
can
have
the
smile
,
but
you
also
have
to
have
it
too
.
So
it's
just
your
reminder
to
have
these
people
around
you
that
are
going
to
be
like
sometimes
they're
like
coaches
or
friends
or
colleagues
.
Have
these
people
around
you
that
are
going
to
be
like
sometimes
they're
like
coaches
or
friends
or
colleagues
,
but
you
have
to
remind
yourself
that
it's
you
versus
you
,
and
if
you
don't
recognize
it
,
you're
never
going
to
change
.
You're
going
to
go
to
the
same
friend
who
you're
going
to
start
becoming
dependent
on
.
They're
going
to
make
you
happy
.
She
realizes
within
you
and
all
of
those
powers
that
you
have
.
Overcoming Chronic Illness Through Perspective
Dr. Niva
26:22
That's
why
I
love
this
book
.
It's
being
able
to
conquer
your
own
walls
.
Alanna
26:26
Yeah
,
something
you
said
that
struck
a
chord
with
me
is
you
have
to
learn
to
love
yourself
.
This
is
something
that
is
really
hard
for
many
to
do
.
When
they're
mad
at
their
bodies
,
they
struggle
achieving
certain
goals
because
of
physical
limitations
,
and
so
it's
that
anger
and
that
grief
which
is
valid
when
you're
going
through
those
things
.
That's
a
valid
thing
to
walk
through
when
your
body
,
when
you're
in
pain
and
it's
hard
to
love
yourself
and
it's
hard
to
love
your
body
.
How
do
we
climb
out
of
that
mentality
?
Because
I'm
sure
,
rick
,
you've
experienced
this
with
athletes
who
are
upset
that
they
can't
reach
a
certain
goal
,
or
they're
struggling
to
reach
a
certain
goal
,
or
maybe
an
injury
that
happens
and
they're
frustrated
.
I
feel
this
Okay
,
I'm
just
speaking
for
myself
,
as
someone
who
gets
hurt
a
lot
.
It's
frustrating
and
you
can
be
angry
.
And
how
to
not
live
in
that
anger
but
reframe
that
mindset
.
How
do
you
do
that
,
and
how
do
you
do
that
as
a
coach
,
and
how
do
you
do
that
with
the
science
backing
it
?
Rick Macci
27:33
Well
,
first
off
,
I
love
this
question
because
,
as
I
sit
here
today
,
back
in
May
I
tore
a
tendon
in
my
plantar
plate
in
the
right
foot
.
Ok
,
I
got
an
MRI
.
Ok
,
I
tore
the
tendon
,
there
was
capsulitis
underneath
,
it
was
swollen
and
so
kind
of
had
to
go
into
a
boot
.
And
the
guy
said
OK
,
the
best
thing
is
,
you
can't
stand
for
at
least
two
months
,
and
I
teach
50
hours
a
week
on
a
tennis
court
and
I've
been
standing
out
in
the
sun
since
age
22
.
I'm
like
a
lizard
,
I've
been
out
there
for
so
long
,
you
know
.
And
so
when
he
said
you
can't
stand
for
two
months
,
I
kind
of
said
I
can't
stand
,
you
you
know
.
So
here
,
but
can't
stand
.
You
,
you
know
I'm
going
,
what
so
here
?
But
here's
the
problem
,
and
Nip
has
helped
me
a
lot
with
this
too
,
with
the
food
and
all
this
stuff
.
And
here
we
are
and
I
still
have
the
problem
because
I
probably
didn't
listen
the
way
that
I
should
have
.
I
know
other
people
would
have
,
but
I
didn't
.
I
just
wanted
to
keep
going
.
But
to
answer
the
question
,
okay
,
other
than
a
boot
,
I
never
even
told
anybody
.
If
they
have
a
boot
on
,
they're
going
to
notice
and
I
tell
them
,
but
I
never
talk
about
it
.
I
don't
complain
about
it
.
I
actually
try
harder
to
do
more
in
other
areas
.
Okay
,
cause
it's
me
against
Mr
Planter
.
Rick Macci
29:05
Plate
tear
,
that's
the
way
I've
framed
up
my
mind
and
I
also
look
at
it
like
it
could
be
worse
.
You
know
.
You
know
it
could
be
worse
,
especially
as
you
get
older
.
So
the
fact
that
I
have
a
tendon
tear
does
it
still
hurt
it
older
?
So
the
fact
that
I
have
a
tendon
tear
does
it
still
hurt
?
It
hurts
even
as
we
sit
here
.
But
I
don't
look
at
it
like
that
because
I've
trained
myself
.
Now
I'm
different
,
because
I
can
handle
pain
.
Everybody
could
have
the
same
problem
or
the
same
pain
.
How
they
tolerate
it
is
very
different
.
And
.
Rick Macci
29:35
I
don't
mean
you
should
be
like
stupid
about
it
Okay
,
you
should
ever
get
help
and
do
all
that
stuff
but
I
don't
talk
about
it
because
even
Niv
said
how's
your
foot
?
I
said
it's
great
and
I
kind
of
move
on
to
the
next
subject
.
Rick Macci
29:48
Yeah
,
you
know
,
so
I
don't
really
,
because
it
will
get
worse
,
because
then
it's
in
my
mind
all
the
time
,
even
though
I'm
aware
of
it
,
because
I
feel
that
little
stone
kind
of
under
my
foot
.
But
I
always
think
that
it
could
be
worse
.
I'm
the
luckiest
guy
in
the
world
.
I'm
the
luckiest
guy
in
the
world
.
I
mean
,
if
this
is
the
worst
thing
that
ever
happens
to
me
,
I'll
take
it
.
But
it's
the
way
I
look
at
it
instead
of
just
why
me
you
know
why
this
happened
to
me
.
I
try
my
best
,
I
help
others
.
You
know
,
blah
,
blah
.
I
could
go
down
that
rabbit
hole
.
I'm
not
wired
like
that
,
but
that
started
long
ago
and
that
prepared
me
for
moments
like
this
,
because
I
know
life's
about
problems
for
everybody
.
It's
how
you
deal
with
and
now
when
you
have
like
chronic
pain
,
you
know
what
I'm
saying
.
Or
you
have
that
pain
,
I
get
it
,
and
I
hope
anybody
listening
understands
that
.
And
it
goes
back
to
what
I
said
earlier
about
the
appreciation
of
what
I
have
and
how
lucky
I
am
.
She's
talking
about
the
Mayo
Clinic
and
all
this
.
You
know
that's
really
important
.
It
could
be
worse
,
you
know
.
I
mean
,
if
someone
has
a
heart
attack
or
they
lose
a
limb
,
they'll
.
They'll
take
a
plantar
plate
tear
any
day
of
the
week
.
You
know
what
I
mean
.
Rick Macci
31:06
It's
just
like
I
tell
kids
I
said
perfect
example
,
you
got
to
run
for
every
ball
.
This
is
how
I
tell
them
.
And
they
go
well
,
it
was
out
.
And
I
said
I
want
you
to
run
for
every
.
Okay
,
I
don't
care
if
the
ball
is
out
.
I
said
do
you
realize
there's
people
that
cannot
run
?
You
were
born
with
the
opportunity
to
run
.
I
want
your
butt
running
as
fast
as
you
can
.
There
are
people
in
wheelchairs
.
Now
I'm
getting
into
coaching
.
I'm
still
kind
of
on
the
court
,
right
,
you
know
,
and
listen
,
I
flipped
a
script
,
you
know
,
and
they
could
be
a
little
lazy
and
they're
ready
to
call
out
and
celebrate
like
it's
their
birthday
out
.
They
keep
running
like
a
little
squirrel
on
steroids
.
Rick Macci
31:42
Okay
,
I
get
them
to
change
everything
because
,
appreciate
what
,
would
you
run
your
fastest
?
Okay
,
I
mean
,
some
people
can't
run
,
you
know
,
and
I
teach
one
student
or
fathers
in
a
wheelchair
and
stuff
like
that
.
So
I
try
to
talk
to
the
kids
about
that
and
they
have
a
mentor
and
a
role
model
and
a
father
figure
like
Rick
Macy
.
It's
very
different
because
the
parents
are
talking
to
him
in
a
whole
different
cafeteria
,
but
with
me
they
get
a
dose
of
the
real
world
,
and
if
I
can
infiltrate
their
brain
at
a
young
age
,
maybe
they'll
treat
people
better
,
They'll
clean
their
room
,
they
get
off
drugs
,
they
look
at
the
world
different
.
I'm
changing
their
perspective
and
the
best
compliment
is
a
lot
of
these
people
that
I
coached
over
my
career
ones
you've
heard
of
and
haven't
.
I
mean
there's
been
over
300
national
champions
.
They
just
pass
a
lot
of
this
stuff
down
to
their
kids
and
their
kids
the
way
they
look
at
it
,
and
so
to
me
that's
what
it's
all
about
.
Rick Macci
32:44
So
anybody
that
has
a
problem
or
they
have
chronic
illness
,
take
a
step
back
.
We
understand
that's
part
of
the
deal
.
You
know
,
if
you're
looking
,
why
me
,
why
me
?
If
you're
on
that
,
Mary
,
you'll
never
get
out
of
it
.
What's
the
alternative
?
You
want
death
.
I
mean
what
is
?
Alanna
33:02
you
know
,
but
it
feels
like
death
at
times
.
I'll
be
honest
.
Rick Macci
33:05
I
understand
that
,
but
listen
,
it's
all
perfect
example
.
This
is
I'm
kind
of
deviating
away
from
what
we're
talking
about
.
If
people
are
going
to
go
run
a
mile
before
they
run
the
mile
,
I
don't
think
people
are
going
.
I
can't
wait
to
run
the
mile
.
Some
people
are
yeah
,
think
how
you
feel
before
the
mile
.
Then
,
after
you
run
the
mile
and
you
get
done
,
your
mind
is
feeling
totally
different
Right
Than
it
was
five
minutes
ago
.
You
see
what
I'm
saying
.
Yeah
,
and
I
tell
a
lot
of
people
even
I'm
getting
off
the
subject
here
I
tell
all
the
kids
when
I
give
a
speech
at
10
o'clock
every
day
and
they're
all
dead
tired
and
they're
in
the
bleachers
,
I
say
,
okay
,
if
I
said
we're
going
to
go
run
five
miles
,
even
though
I'm
not
like
that
,
okay
,
we're
going
to
run
five
miles
right
now
.
Rick Macci
33:53
How
many
would
do
it
?
Half
of
them
put
their
hand
up
and
they're
lying
.
Okay
,
because
they're
not
going
to
do
it
.
Then
I
said
we're
going
to
run
five
miles
.
If
you
run
five
miles
,
I'll
give
you
$5,000
.
And
every
hand
goes
up
,
every
kid
and
they
got
it
wrong
.
It's
perspective
.
If
they
run
the
five
miles
,
maybe
someday
,
if
they
become
a
pro
,
they'll
make
5,000
look
like
peanuts
.
They
got
it
backwards
.
You
know
what
I
mean
.
This
is
what
people
have
to
understand
.
It
goes
back
to
the
perspective
and
how
we're
looking
at
everything
,
and
chronic
illness
is
a
big
thing
,
so
it
goes
down
to
that
appreciation
it
goes
down
to
that
appreciation
.
Alanna
34:38
It's
interesting
you
say
that
because
and
I'll
correlate
this
with
something
that
I
have
personally
experienced
and
I
say
it
often
so
,
being
someone
with
chronic
illness
and
chronic
pain
,
I
invested
in
myself
.
I
said
I'm
worth
enough
to
invest
in
myself
.
I
have
a
trainer
and
my
trainer
sits
down
with
me
and
we
work
through
a
lot
of
these
things
.
And
I
said
to
him
the
other
day
I
said
I'm
so
proud
of
myself
and
my
trainer
sits
down
with
me
and
we
work
through
a
lot
of
these
things
.
And
I
said
to
him
the
other
day
I
said
I'm
so
proud
of
myself
and
he's
like
you
should
be
.
I
said
no
,
I'm
proud
because
I
can
do
something
I
couldn't
a
year
ago
and
it
was
in
that
moment
.
I
wouldn't
have
said
I
was
proud
of
myself
.
In
that
moment
it
didn't
really
feel
good
.
I'm
going
to
be
honest
with
you
.
It
took
a
lot
of
time
and
effort
and
believing
that
I
was
worth
enough
to
continue
fighting
this
fight
of
I'm
worth
,
putting
myself
in
a
position
to
grow
.
I'm
worth
growing
my
body
and
investing
in
my
body
.
Alanna
35:34
And
I
think
,
because
my
mindset
shifted
into
I
can
do
this
,
and
I
became
proud
of
that
and
it
was
a
good
thing
for
me
as
someone
in
the
chronic
illness
community
and
I
always
tell
people
be
proud
of
the
little
accomplishments
you
make
in
a
day
,
because
they're
so
big
and
what
seems
so
minute
to
some
is
really
big
to
others
.
Alanna
36:02
So
it
may
and
I've
said
this
before
if
an
accomplishment
for
you
in
a
day
is
I
got
up
and
I
got
dressed
,
be
proud
of
those
accomplishments
because
it's
bigger
than
sitting
and
doing
nothing
.
Alanna
36:15
If
your
accomplishment
and
all
you
can
do
because
you're
in
a
pain
flare
,
is
taking
deep
breaths
and
is
trying
to
eat
food
or
drink
relish
in
that
accomplishment
.
It
may
seem
small
to
many
but
it
is
big
to
you
.
Growing Through Small Accomplishments
Alanna
36:30
And
I
think
that
if
we
reframe
our
perspective
around
what
is
an
accomplishment
for
you
and
being
proud
of
those
accomplishments
,
I
think
that
will
propel
people
to
make
bigger
accomplishments
and
grow
even
more
so
when
they're
not
in
a
flare
or
when
they're
not
in
a
state
of
like
just
survival
mode
physically
,
because
that
mental
mindset
is
a
muscle
,
your
brain
is
a
muscle
and
so
training
your
brain
to
be
like
accomplish
something
today
and
being
okay
with
that
,
I
think
will
speak
volumes
to
those
who
are
struggling
to
get
out
of
bed
and
feeling
that
self-worth
diminish
because
they
can't
do
something
.
I
got
out
of
bed
today
.
That's
a
big
accomplishment
for
me
today
.
Dr. Niva
37:18
I
love
that
example
.
That's
what
I'm
just
going
to
.
That's
what
we
talk
about
in
my
clinic
all
the
time
and
that's
the
book
.
Right
,
we
have
to
be
our
own
best
friend
and
our
own
share
leader
.
Yeah
,
and
that's
what
you're
doing
You're
being
your
own
share
leader
.
So
when
,
even
if
there's
small
accomplishments
every
day
,
we
don't
have
to
compare
to
anybody
else
,
we
have
to
compare
it
to
ourselves
,
and
if
we
feel
like
we've
done
more
than
we
can
imagine
,
we've
really
conquered
our
mind
and
our
world
,
that's
great
and
we
just
keep
telling
ourselves
great
job
.
You
did
this
.
Dr. Niva
37:50
For
instance
,
when
somebody
has
an
injury
and
they
hurt
their
foot
,
or
have
patients
who
are
very
weak
in
a
wheelchair
and
they
can't
really
move
,
but
now
they
can
actually
lift
up
their
phone
,
that's
a
huge
deal
for
them
,
right
?
And
so
they
have
to
tell
themselves
and
you
were
talking
about
this
concept
of
self-love
,
and
I
think
that's
really
important
,
especially
with
people
who
are
dealing
with
illnesses
,
because
they
really
beat
themselves
up
.
They
need
it
.
I
had
a
patient
two
weeks
ago
who
had
ALS
and
she
hated
the
fact
that
she
had
to
live
with
her
mom
,
that
she
can't
walk
or
work
or
has
no
money
,
and
she's
just
surviving
with
what
her
mom
made
and
her
mom
is
looking
double
just
to
take
care
of
her
.
But
she
has
to
realize
that
,
like
she
herself
is
a
blessing
you
know
we
went
over
this
she
has
to
love
herself
and
her
mom
loves
her
.
Dr. Niva
38:34
It's
once
she
changed
that
perspective
and
they
realized
,
like
you
know
,
maybe
there's
a
couple
months
left
to
live
.
Then
,
all
of
a
sudden
,
like
she
stopped
beating
herself
up
.
There's
wasting
so
much
time
on
that
,
thinking
so
it's
so
important
to
be
our
best
friend
,
to
be
our
own
cheerleader
,
to
take
care
of
ourselves
and
our
emotions
and
recognize
the
perspective
we
should
.
That
you
know
we
have
to
love
ourselves
.
Alternative
is
not
good
,
you
know
Right
.
Rick Macci
38:59
So
you
know
,
no
,
this
is
huge
.
You
know
,
obviously
the
little
things
make
the
biggest
difference
and
if
you're
going
to
beat
yourself
up
one
way
,
you
got
to
celebrate
the
littlest
things
,
and
this
is
what
I
do
,
obviously
,
on
the
tennis
court
with
people
.
I
want
them
to
feel
good
about
themselves
.
The
other
,
you
get
on
that
hamster
wheel
and
it
just
sucks
everything
out
of
you
.
You
got
to
understand
the
littlest
thing
is
a
major
league
accomplishment
and
even
people
that
maybe
don't
have
an
illness
that
accomplish
something
.
They
take
little
steps
,
they
take
the
stairs
,
not
the
escalator
.
You
can't
look
at
it
like
why
can't
I
do
that
?
Everybody
has
whatever
they're
trying
to
accomplish
.
And
you
got
to
feel
great
about
yourself
.
Just
a
microcosm
of
improvement
,
okay
.
And
you
got
to
feel
great
about
yourself
and
then
that
ripples
into
other
things
and
,
like
you
said
,
maybe
you
needed
the
trainer
to
get
you
going
.
Now
you're
confident
.
Your
confidence
has
breed
more
confident
.
You
even
talk
about
it
different
.
And
now
you're
looking
for
,
you
know
,
for
more
stuff
like
Harnessing Mental and Physical Health
Rick Macci
40:06
that
.
Rick Macci
40:06
And
this
is
very
,
very
important
for
anybody
listening
.
You've
got
to
really
celebrate
and
feel
amazing
about
the
little
things
you
can
do
.
And
you
got
to
understand
you're
going
to
fail
,
it'll
be
a
bad
day
at
the
office
,
but
you
got
to
look
at
it
like
you're
not
failing
.
It's
just
an
opportunity
to
do
it
better
.
It's
all
how
you
look
at
it
.
But
if
you
look
at
it
black
and
white
,
you're
going
down
a
path
and
you'll
just
lose
so
many
other
inner
qualities
.
I
can't
even
tell
you
.
When
it
goes
back
to
what
we
said
earlier
let's
celebrate
the
littlest
things
are
huge
,
it's
huge
.
You
know
.
When
it
goes
back
to
what
we
said
earlier
,
let's
celebrate
the
littlest
things
are
huge
,
it's
huge
.
You
have
no
idea
.
It's
almost
like
you're
motivating
yourself
.
Everybody
needs
a
little
push
,
everybody
needs
some
outside
help
.
Like
Niv
said
,
be
your
best
friend
,
motivate
yourself
.
This
is
such
a
key
thing
I
can't
even
stress
it
enough
.
Alanna
40:54
Yeah
,
niv
,
can
you
tell
us
just
a
little
bit
more
about
the
connection
between
our
physical
health
and
our
mental
health
,
like
,
how
does
mental
health
affect
our
physical
health
?
Dr. Niva
41:07
It's
so
important
.
It's
a
fundamental
building
block
of
physical
health
.
So
mental
health
is
critical
.
Dr. Niva
41:15
Patients
and
people
whom
I
see
who
have
the
most
positive
outlook
.
They're
grateful
for
everything
they
have
.
I've
noticed
them
just
improve
so
much
better
in
terms
of
their
health
,
and
it's
the
reason
why
is
because
they
take
positive
action
to
love
themselves
.
They
take
positive
action
to
take
care
of
themselves
.
Just
like
you
were
saying
,
they
take
the
right
steps
to
be
able
to
make
the
right
moves
for
their
health
.
Now
imagine
someone
who
doesn't
love
themselves
,
someone
who
doesn't
like
how
they
look
or
they're
mad
at
themselves
.
Now
they
do
destructive
things
.
Right
,
they
go
ahead
and
they
eat
now
because
who
cares
?
They
don't
love
their
body
,
they
don't
sleep
well
,
they
don't
sleep
well
,
they
don't
think
well
.
They
do
things
because
they
really
don't
love
themselves
.
And
so
it's
a
really
big
game
changer
.
The
thinking
positively
,
the
mental
health
,
loving
themselves
,
taking
care
of
themselves
,
is
so
important
in
terms
of
,
of
course
,
mental
health
,
but
our
physical
health
,
and
you
can
see
that
right
away
.
Dr. Niva
42:22
People
self-sabotage
.
It's
all
them
versus
themselves
,
it's
you
versus
you
.
And
Rick
says
that
all
the
time
you
have
to
look
at
yourself
in
the
mirror
and
when
you
figure
out
why
you're
self-sabotaging
yourself
,
like
why
is
it
that
you're
making
the
wrong
choices
?
Why
are
you
eating
them
?
Why
are
you
binge
eating
?
Then
you
have
to
figure
out
what
is
that
pain
?
It
may
be
from
your
childhood
,
maybe
from
who
knows
what
happened
.
Someone
said
something
to
you
and
that
you
see
in
this
like
mental
room
of
constantly
repeating
it
to
yourself
and
hating
yourself
.
Or
you
realize
.
Once
you
realize
that
you're
in
control
of
everything
,
especially
those
thoughts
,
and
that
you
have
control
to
stop
it
right
,
then
you
can
actually
fix
it
.
You
know
,
if
you
stop
those
thoughts
and
then
redirect
them
to
positive
thoughts
,
say
no
,
no
,
that
person
is
wrong
or
that
event
is
not
right
.
Whatever
the
situation
is
,
the
bottom
of
your
body
is
beautiful
and
it
will
be
beautiful
and
I
will
make
it
better
and
you'll
be
on
the
right
track
for
physical
health
.
And
.
Dr. Niva
43:19
I've
seen
such
great
because
I
know
I
deal
with
a
lot
of
patients
who
are
dying
or
ALS
.
I
had
a
patient
with
spinal
muscular
atrophy
in
a
wheelchair
and
she
just
she
can't
move
her
arms
and
legs
,
she's
paralyzed
almost
.
She's
born
with
muscular
dystrophy
and
muscular
atrophy
and
she
can
with
muscular
dystrophy
and
muscular
atrophy
and
she
can
.
She
gets
someone
to
put
makeup
on
,
she
just
makes
herself
feel
good
,
she
can
put
a
little
bit
of
lipstick
and
she
has
a
boyfriend
and
they're
like
going
around
you
know
Walmart
,
and
she
travels
all
the
time
with
her
wheelchair
.
It's
really
important
.
She
makes
her
mental
health
so
good
,
she's
so
positive
,
she
loves
herself
,
she's
always
glowing
positivity
and
that's
how
she
lives
her
lives
yeah
and
she's
probably
one
of
my
healthiest
,
even
though
she's
so
weak
.
Rick Macci
43:59
No
,
tell
me
not
what
I
said
earlier
and
you've
touched
upon
it
.
First
off
,
you
gotta
understand
you
control
the
situation
,
don't
let
it
control
you
.
That's
the
starting
point
.
It's
a
choice
.
But
if
you're
so
in
that
negative
,
you
know
thought
process
,
you're
in
you
.
The
mind
controls
the
body
.
Everybody
has
has
to
understand
that
.
That's
like
number
one
the
mind
controls
the
body
.
Mindset and Perception in Healing
Rick Macci
44:23
This
is
very
,
very
important
.
It's
nothing
to
do
with
how
smart
you
are
or
your
opportunity
or
money
or
anything
like
that
.
The
mind
controls
the
body
and
whatever
lane
you're
in
in
the
game
of
life
and
from
there
you
make
choices
how
you
want
to
treat
people
.
And
it
goes
way
back
to
what
we
said
Appreciate
what
you
have
,
Settle
what
you
don't
have
,
Thankful
.
So
this
is
very
important
.
And
if
you
think
about
it
every
day
when
you
get
up
,
if
someone
you
got
all
these
things
going
on
,
the
kids
screaming
,
yelling
,
I'm
late
,
got
all
these
things
going
on
,
the
kids
screaming
,
yelling
,
I'm
late
,
this
,
that
the
alarm
,
this
you
get
all
these
things
going
on
and
you
have
this
positive
stuff
It'll
kind
of
motivate
you
or
give
you
a
fighting
chance
.
You
know
what
I'm
saying
and
this
is
really
important
.
What
you
put
into
your
mind
every
day
.
This
is
really
important
,
but
people
don't
.
They're
letting
everything
control
them
.
Alanna
45:18
Yeah
,
I
think
something
,
too
,
that
I
have
really
seen
as
a
benefit
in
navigating
my
own
journey
with
this
is
that
I
think
there's
this
misconception
that
grief
has
to
be
doom
and
gloom
,
and
I
think
we
deal
with
a
lot
of
grief
and
that's
a
normal
part
of
humans
.
We
will
walk
through
grief
in
our
life
.
You
are
not
exempt
at
all
from
grief
,
right
?
It's
just
that
when
you
live
with
a
chronic
illness
,
grief
can
either
heal
in
a
different
way
and
it's
a
stronger
sense
of
healing
and
you
heal
the
mind
of
the
hurt
and
the
pain
doesn't
mean
that
we
ignore
it
or
that
we
forget
it
.
It
just
means
that
it
doesn't
consume
us
,
and
I
think
something
that
I've
seen
within
you
know
,
living
with
chronic
illnesses
,
is
that
if
you
live
in
grief
and
allow
it
to
consume
you
,
you
physically
are
not
as
healthy
,
and
that
is
something
that
I
have
had
to
focus
on
.
I
can
have
joy
in
my
grief
,
and
I
can
have
it
doesn't
mean
that
I'm
not
in
pain
.
It
doesn't
mean
that
I'm
not
struggling
,
trying
to
navigate
my
day
to
day
.
What
it
means
is
that
I'm
not
allowing
it
to
consume
me
,
and
I
think
the
effects
on
my
body
because
of
that
is
better
,
Like
my
outcome
physically
is
better
because
I'm
not
holding
on
to
the
weight
of
the
world
,
I'm
not
holding
on
to
things
that
I
can't
control
.
Alanna
47:05
And
something
that
I've
learned
and
I'm
not
sure
how
much
of
this
is
in
the
book
,
but
I
think
it
is
is
that
and
we
talk
about
the
controlling
what's
in
our
mind
,
but
I
can
only
control
what
I
put
in
my
mind
and
in
my
body
.
Alanna
47:18
And
if
I
put
that
joy
and
I
put
that
mindset
of
healing
and
I
put
that
in
front
of
me
as
like
I'm
not
going
to
let
this
stop
me
today
,
it
might
limit
me
a
little
bit
but
it's
not
going
to
stop
me
,
it's
not
going
to
stop
me
from
living
.
And
if
I
put
that
mindset
there
,
my
body
will
follow
that
to
the
best
of
its
ability
.
We
will
have
limitations
,
but
it'll
follow
in
the
best
of
my
ability
and
I'm
not
going
to
hold
it
.
Tension
and
stress
and
anger
and
negativity
.
If
we
hold
on
to
that
,
our
bodies
feel
it
and
I
know
that
for
me
personally
that
has
been
a
huge
part
of
it
.
Right
,
we
as
humans
have
the
ability
to
let
it
go
and
work
through
it
and
that's
,
I
think
,
part
of
the
biggest
part
of
healing
physically
is
knowing
that
there
are
things
you
can't
control
and
then
there
are
things
that
you
can
,
but
thinking
about
not
having
to
hold
the
weight
of
the
world
will
help
you
.
Dr. Niva
48:11
Yeah
,
and
I
think
that's
part
of
the
book
talks
about
thinking
loops
,
and
so
what
we
try
to
say
is
that
our
baseline
state
should
always
be
joy
,
because
that's
who
we
are
and
our
thoughts
should
be
programmed
to
get
that
constant
joy
.
In
fact
,
if
I
don't
have
that
,
I
have
to
,
like
actually
go
through
a
thinking
loop
and
figure
out
what
it
is
that's
bothering
me
and
fix
it
,
because
it's
just
a
matter
of
looking
.
It's
a
simple
thought
that
needs
to
be
adjusted
,
and
so
I'll
be
like
why
is
it
that
I
suddenly
felt
bad
about
X
,
y
,
z
?
And
then
I'll
be
like
okay
,
back
it
up
and
how
do
we
fix
it
?
Dr. Niva
48:44
So
a
thinking
loop
is
how
our
minds
are
programmed
and
they
occur
years
and
years
into
your
kids
.
It's
how
you're
born
.
It's
like
you
suddenly
somebody
says
something
and
all
of
a
sudden
,
trade
with
a
domino
triggers
that
thought
.
Uh
,
you
see
something
or
you
hear
something
,
or
you
know
who
knows
what
is
taste
something
,
and
now
you
have
a
sensation
that's
triggering
a
thought
.
It's
usually
something
you
know
situation
,
maybe
you
could
be
at
work
or
at
home
and
and
it
dominoes
into
that
.
Dr. Niva
49:10
So
something
you
get
into
a
loop
and
it's
important
to
journal
these
or
to
think
about
and
really
train
your
mind
,
saying
what
is
it
that
bothers
me
?
And
so
if
there's
like
an
external
event
that
does
that
constantly
,
that
stuff
needs
to
be
made
.
It's
like
a
weed
you
have
to
take
it
out
and
it's
just
a
practice
of
discipline
every
day
.
I
do
that
.
So
,
like
joy
is
your
mate
,
you
know
,
should
be
your
constant
state
.
All
right
,
you
know
,
and
I
know
there's
grief
and
there's
stuff
like
that
,
and
that's
understandable
.
Everyone
goes
through
it
.
You
can
even
use
the
thinking
loop
to
overcome
what
you're
saying
and
to
find
the
joy
in
something
that's
maybe
a
negative
emotion
,
and
learn
to
train
our
minds
to
be
able
to
be
involved
within
ourselves
,
to
be
able
to
be
programed
.
We
don't
realize
we
have
all
this
power
.
Rick Macci
49:59
You
said
earlier
,
everybody
has
to
understand
you're
gonna
have
problems
,
that's
.
Don't
.
Rick Macci
50:01
Don't
think
like
oh
,
today
was
a
great
day
you
know
,
okay
,
and
then
you
think
every
no
,
you're
,
there's
gonna
be
problems
.
The
best
of
the
best
of
all
the
rest
,
whether
it
be
in
business
,
sports
or
whatever
,
they
dealt
with
more
failure
,
okay
,
and
more
setbacks
and
more
problems
than
anybody
.
Not
so
much
the
chronic
illness
or
that
type
of
stuff
.
To
some
degree
They've
dealt
with
all
of
that
,
but
all
people
do
is
see
where
they're
at
.
But
all
those
yesterdays
of
failure
and
setback
,
misery
and
pain
led
to
the
future
,
all
those
yesterdays
.
So
people
have
to
understand
no
one
just
goes
from
there
over
the
moon
.
No
way
,
it's
brick
by
brick
.
It's
like
building
a
house
and
how
you
respond
to
it
is
I'm
going
to
have
problems
,
I'm
going
to
fail
,
but
if
you
don't
try
,
you'll
probably
be
undefeated
.
I
tell
people
,
don't
enter
the
tournament
,
you're
not
going
to
lose
.
I
mean
,
give
me
a
break
,
but
it's
all
.
Once
again
,
perspective
.
You
got
to
expect
that
.
And
then
how
you
deal
with
it
.
We
could
be
in
the
car
and
we
go
to
a
red
light
and
then
it
turns
green
and
the
guy
in
front
of
you
doesn't
.
You're
going
to
maybe
lay
on
the
horn
for
five
seconds
.
Okay
,
you
might
just
ignore
the
whole
thing
because
you
are
calm
and
you're
gonna
do
this
,
or
you
might
say
they're
number
one
,
who
knows
what
.
How
you're
gonna
respond
to
the
situation
,
you
know
.
But
by
just
knowing
okay
and
being
calm
,
it's
better
for
your
health
and
you
train
yourself
.
Rick Macci
51:36
I'm
not
saying
any
of
those
are
wrong
.
I
mean
that's
up
in
the
eye
of
the
beholder
how
they
handle
that
.
But
it's
very
important
that
you
just
don't
overreact
.
You
know
,
and
everybody
says
you'll
get
better
tomorrow
.
Good
night
,
see
what's
changed
other
than
time
.
Why
don't
you
change
it
immediately
?
Good
night
,
see
what's
changed
other
than
time
.
Why
don't
you
change
it
immediately
?
Rick Macci
51:54
How
you
look
at
it
,
okay
,
you
know
,
some
people
get
upset
all
the
time
.
They
make
mountains
out
of
molehills
and
some
people
have
the
same
exact
thing
.
They're
going
to
respond
differently
.
It's
crazy
and
it
goes
all
the
way
back
to
all
these
gold
nuggets
,
all
these
gems
that
we
talked
about
.
And
you
can
imagine
the
mental
strength
of
some
of
the
athletes
I've
worked
with
.
It's
not
that
they
were
quicker
,
faster
,
bigger
,
stronger
,
better
forehand
,
backhand
or
circle
,
it's
all
how
they
handle
things
.
If
you
look
at
Federer
and
Alan
Djokovic
,
when
they
played
they
lost
45%
of
the
points
,
but
they
have
more
grand
slams
than
anybody
.
That's
a
lot
of
losing
of
points
.
You
know
you
might
think
it's
like
80%
that
they
won
and
they
only
lost
like
20%
.
No
,
it's
how
you
handle
the
key
moments
.
That's
different
than
chronic
illness
,
but
I'm
just
the
same
thing
how
you
handle
things
and
frame
it
up
in
your
mind
.
You
know
and
motivate
yourself
and
look
at
the
world
to
a
different
lens
.
Alanna
52:56
Absolutely
.
There's
a
huge
correlation
with
that
,
though
.
I
mean
,
even
in
the
chronic
illness
community
.
I
think
how
you
frame
your
mindset
and
how
you
allow
what's
been
handed
to
you
propel
you
to
do
something
more
will
change
.
If
you
have
purpose
in
your
pain
,
if
you
have
purpose
in
the
things
that
you've
gone
through
that
are
challenges
,
if
you
find
that
purpose
,
it
propels
you
out
of
yourself
.
It's
kind
of
a
weird
mind
shift
,
right
.
It's
an
out-of-body
thing
sometimes
when
you
step
out
of
yourself
to
help
others
because
of
what
you've
gone
through
.
I
think
there's
so
much
power
and
healing
in
that
,
and
I've
said
this
so
many
times
to
people
helping
others
and
stepping
outside
of
ourselves
to
help
others
feel
joy
,
to
feel
seen
,
to
feel
validated
,
is
healing
for
us
,
and
there's
so
much
to
be
said
about
that
.
Alanna
53:52
Do
I
love
the
fact
that
I've
always
been
in
pain
?
I
mean
,
it's
not
,
doesn't
feel
great
.
You
know
that
doesn't
feel
great
,
but
what
I
can
do
is
I
can
use
my
pain
and
I
can
help
others
,
and
then
it
no
longer
becomes
consuming
,
it
no
longer
becomes
about
me
,
it
no
longer
becomes
about
you
know
what
I
can
or
cannot
do
.
It
turns
into
how
can
we
shift
this
,
how
can
I
help
someone
and
you
find
joy
in
helping
those
people
.
It
just
kind
of
separates
that
mentality
and
that's
just
been
my
personal
experience
in
doing
this
is
that
it
brings
joy
in
helping
others
.
Like
I
don't
know
one
person
that
helps
someone
who
doesn't
find
joy
in
that
.
You
know
Easy
solution
to
finding
joy
help
someone
.
I
mean
there's
step
one
right
.
So
I
do
think
there's
a
lot
of
things
that
we
can
do
to
kind
of
step
out
of
that
mental
mindset
of
just
pain
in
the
chronic
illness
community
.
I
think
we
have
to
look
outside
of
it
.
Rick Macci
54:55
Absolutely
.
I
love
what
you
just
said
because
I've
done
so
many
interviews
and
podcasts
,
especially
since
the
movie
King
Richard
,
plus
my
whole
career
,
but
that's
the
cornerstone
of
my
career
,
that's
the
cornerstone
of
Rick
Macy
.
I
love
to
help
others
more
than
myself
.
It's
not
just
the
technical
,
the
biomechanics
,
and
that
feeling
to
help
others
is
so
gratifying
.
You
know
,
I'm
a
builder
,
I'm
a
life
changer
,
but
I've
done
that
for
so
long
.
I
just
be
,
you
become
that
and
then
you
have
pride
in
that
.
You
know
,
when
I
mean
it's
to
the
point
where
my
own
kids
,
even
when
it's
my
birthday
,
I'm
buying
them
presents
,
right
,
it's
a
matter
of
what's
going
on
.
That's
a
little
extreme
,
I
mean
,
I
got
it
,
you
know
,
but
that's
kind
of
how
I'm
just
put
together
and
I
think
that
baseline
that
you
just
said
helps
me
deal
with
everything
and
that's
why
I
become
you
know
what
I've
become
,
you
Balancing Caregiver Mental Health
Rick Macci
55:59
know
.
Rick Macci
55:59
And
all
around
the
Rick
Macy
Tennis
Center
,
you
know
,
it's
like
Disneyland
,
candyland
,
the
land
of
opportunity
.
Then
when
the
words
come
out
,
it's
just
a
place
where
everybody
would
rather
have
a
compliment
than
something
you
know
negative
.
So
what
you
said
earlier
to
me
is
gold
,
but
that's
been
the
cornerstone
you
got
.
You
learn
education
as
you
go
along
,
you
get
experience
,
you
get
all
that
as
you
go
along
.
But
the
cornerstone
of
that
any
teacher
,
coach
or
rule
model
,
okay
,
it's
huge
,
you
know
.
And
when
you
know
you're
making
a
difference
in
someone's
life
,
you're
right
,
it's
huge
,
you
know
.
And
when
you
know
you're
making
a
difference
in
someone's
life
,
you're
right
,
it
can
help
you
.
I
never
really
looked
at
it
so
much
like
that
,
but
then
you
have
a
standard
and
a
pride
,
uh
,
so
it's
definitely
and
if
can
,
probably
it
has
.
It's
probably
uh
,
helped
me
a
lot
.
So
I've
kind
of
been
the
same
way
ever
since
I
started
doing
this
.
Yeah
.
Alanna
56:51
Yes
,
here's
a
real
question
,
and
maybe
,
rick
,
you
would
know
this
too
,
but
I
think
that
,
because
,
when
you
are
constantly
giving
,
though
,
the
other
side
of
this
is
when
you
give
,
give
,
give
,
say
,
our
caretakers
who
are
taking
care
of
us
,
who
are
maybe
not
feeling
good
,
and
there
is
that
caregiver
burnout
.
There
is
a
lot
of
that
how
do
we
support
and
how
do
we
help
those
who
are
the
caregivers
maybe
going
through
that
burnout
,
reshift
that
mindset
,
to
find
that
mental
toughness
,
strength
,
joy
,
perseverance
,
all
of
these
things
that
we're
talking
about
,
because
that
is
a
really
hard
thing
to
give
,
give
,
give
of
yourself
all
the
time
,
but
maybe
not
even
feel
like
you're
getting
back
I
think
that's
the
hard
part
about
that
or
like
feeling
like
that's
thankless
.
How
can
we
train
our
minds
to
have
perspective
and
gratitude
and
thankfulness
when
it's
never
ending
?
Dr. Niva
58:00
I
think
I
deal
with
that
in
the
clinics
.
I
have
a
lot
of
patients
who
have
caregivers
,
right
Right
,
and
the
most
important
thing
I
noticed
is
that
sometimes
these
caregivers
get
themselves
in
this
mental
trap
where
they
want
to
be
in
that
position
but
then
they
feel
like
they
will
complain
about
it
.
So
it's
very
important
for
them
to
be
very
aware
of
what
they
need
and
a
lot
of
times
they
,
because
they've
invested
so
much
time
and
somebody
,
they
forget
about
themselves
and
they
have
to
keep
on
reminding
themselves
every
day
that
they
gotta
have
that
balance
.
And
it
sounds
they
say
,
oh
,
it's
,
it's
just
,
but
the
thing
is
it
is
possible
in
some
ways
that
they
want
See
,
and
that's
where
they
get
a
little
bit
confused
and
have
to
recognize
what
they
need
and
they
overdo
it
.
So
they
just
they
forget
about
themselves
.
Dr. Niva
58:44
And
I
think
the
book
is
supposed
to
help
refocus
who
they
are
,
what
they
like
,
what
their
joys
are
.
They
have
to
make
that
part
,
the
caregiving
,
a
part
of
who
they
are
,
but
not
the
whole
thing
.
And
unfortunately
a
lot
of
the
caregivers
tend
to
make
that
their
whole
life
and
it's
very
complicated
because
it
becomes
a
mental
sort
of
loop
and
everyday
,
you
know
,
kind
of
a
drain
.
And
the
way
that
they
do
is
separate
themselves
from
the
caregiver
.
And
as
soon
as
they
separate
themselves
,
I
say
,
well
,
that's
something
I
do
.
But
then
there's
also
something
I
do
for
me
.
And
you
know
,
if
they
can
find
,
you
know
,
someone
to
give
them
that
break
,
even
if
it's
for
a
few
hours
,
that's
worth
lots
of
.
You
know
,
it's
a
lot
,
but
it's
worth
a
lot
to
these
people
because
they
have
to
find
their
individual
self
.
Dr. Niva
59:35
What
happens
is
they
get
so
obsessed
with
their
.
They
actually
mentally
get
so
obsessed
and
they
think
that
that's
who
they
are
.
They
identify
themselves
with
the
caregiving
.
They
think
that
the
other
person
is
so
dependent
on
them
.
And
sometimes
these
patients
are
,
like
either
brain
dead
or
you
know
.
Sometimes
they
have
,
like
you
know
,
no
cognitive
awareness
of
the
caregiver
,
and
so
so
you
just
.
But
these
caregivers
have
this
like
whoa
,
like
oh
,
I'm
doing
everything
and
I'm
just
sacrificing
,
and
they
get
this
like
kind
of
high
from
it
.
They
forget
about
themselves
.
And
whatever
happens
if
they
stop
the
caregiving
part
of
it
,
then
all
of
a
sudden
there's
a
huge
vacuum
,
because
now
they
have
nothing
right
.
Just
very
,
very
important
that
they
recognize
what
they
like
they
write
in
a
journal
.
They
recognize
,
like
you
know
,
the
things
that
mean
a
lot
.
They
give
them
joy
,
they
reframe
things
and
then
also
balance
.
That
time
for
themselves
is
so
important
.
They
have
to
,
and
and
it's
if
they
don't
do
it
.
They're
going
to
get
into
that
trap
of
just
being
overburdened
by
someone
.
Rick Macci
1:00:35
I
love
this
question
.
No
,
listen
,
she's
a
caregiver
and
to
some
degree
,
obviously
,
when
you're
in
a
certain
profession
,
I'm
a
caregiver
,
you
know
.
But
on
the
court
,
I
show
you
how
to
deliver
,
you
know
.
That's
a
whole
different
thing
.
But
listen
,
I
look
at
this
differently
,
and
Nev
just
brought
it
up
.
This
is
what
you
want
to
do
Either
you're
in
or
you're
Maintaining Identity and Balance as Caregivers
Rick Macci
1:00:55
out
.
Rick Macci
1:00:55
If
you're
in
the
giving
business
,
okay
and
sometimes
the
more
you
give
,
the
more
people
will
take
advantage
or
you'll
feel
like
,
oh
,
they're
just
sucking
all
the
oxygen
out
of
me
.
You
know
,
it's
just
never
ending
.
When
you
start
playing
that
game
like
taking
advantage
of
me
,
this
is
too
much
.
When
you've
gone
on
that
,
you're
in
the
wrong
business
.
But
here's
how
you
handle
it
.
Rick Macci
1:01:17
It's
not
going
to
be
black
and
white
.
Some
people
are
going
to
have
more
needs
than
others
and
you
want
to
give
and
give
and
you
want
to
give
all
that
emotion
.
But
you
got
to
be
this
person
because
that's
your
career
,
job
.
You
got
to
flip
the
script
and
you
got
to
be
another
person
.
You
know
you
got
to
be
able
to
do
stuff
for
yourself
,
to
make
yourself
feel
good
.
But
if
you're
thinking
I
do
everything
for
everybody
else
,
no
one
does
anything
for
me
.
I
just
give
and
give
and
give
.
If
you're
doing
that
time
to
get
a
new
job
because
that's
not
good
,
you
won't
even
do
the
caregiving
that
good
,
right
,
and
you're
beating
yourself
up
on
the
other
end
.
You
got
to
be
this
person
,
boom
,
and
you
got
to
be
able
to
flip
the
script
.
Rick Macci
1:02:03
It's
mental
training
.
It's
like
you
know
,
I
do
all
this
stuff
and
then
I
might
come
home
and
there
might
be
,
you
know
,
15
text
messages
.
It's
like
it
never
ends
.
And
if
I'm
thinking
like
that
all
the
time
,
it's
not
healthy
.
You
put
up
with
it
.
Then
you
grow
not
to
love
what
you
do
.
You
see
,
and
when
you
love
what
you
do
and
you
have
passion
,
that's
how
you
extract
greatness
,
that's
how
you
help
other
people
.
Rick Macci
1:02:26
And
if
you
don't
have
that
balance
,
it
could
get
a
little
.
You
know
it
could
get
a
little
crazy
.
You
know
,
and
you're
going
to
fight
yourself
.
You
have
to
be
going
to
fight
yourself
.
You
have
to
be
able
to
do
that
.
And
you
know
I
mean
I
work
a
lot
and
do
a
lot
,
but
when
I
leave
I
do
a
lot
of
things
for
myself
.
You
know
it's
very
important
to
feel
good
about
yourself
.
You
know
you
got
to
work
out
.
This
is
what
you
want
to
do
,
then
fun
,
whatever
fun
I
have
,
that's
what
you
make
it
.
Fun
is
different
from
everybody
.
Fun
is
different
.
But
if
you
feel
you're
getting
everything
sucked
out
of
you
as
a
caregiver
and
you
feel
that
for
a
long
period
of
time
,
new
job
.
Alanna
1:03:04
Yeah
,
you
know
,
I
think
that's
true
,
and
maybe
what
I'm
hearing
too
is
that
we
should
never
lose
our
identity
to
one
situation
or
one
person
.
Alanna
1:03:12
Like
,
we
are
a
unique
human
with
our
own
identity
,
our
own
love
of
life
,
things
that
bring
us
joy
,
things
that
fulfill
us
,
things
that
kind
of
elicit
that
sense
of
belonging
and
self-worth
,
and
if
we
allow
others
to
dictate
that
in
our
lives
and
we
lose
our
identity
to
that
,
that's
where
that
burnout
tends
to
happen
,
when
we
aren't
finding
those
pieces
of
joy
,
that
kind
of
take
over
the
hard
things
,
you
know
,
and
that's
I
do
think
there's
so
much
value
to
that
,
and
I
myself
have
had
to
grapple
with
that
at
times
as
a
parent
and
as
a
wife
and
as
an
advocate
in
this
space
.
I'm
still
me
and
I
had
to
find
that
each
of
these
things
fulfilled
me
in
a
different
way
,
but
I
couldn't
lose
my
identity
in
just
one
of
these
things
and
that's
been
so
impactful
for
me
to
be
like
I'm
going
to
take
my
day
off
today
,
you
know
,
and
I'm
going
to
fuel
myself
,
I'm
going
to
feed
myself
,
you
know
,
every
day
.
Dr. Niva
1:04:21
It
should
take
some
time
off
.
That's
very
good
for
,
like
,
some
time
for
yourself
.
Alanna
1:04:24
Yeah
,
that's
very
that's
awesome
For
people
that
are
interested
in
learning
more
about
your
book
and
about
your
journeys
.
Billion Dollar Mind Book Discussion
Alanna
1:04:33
Where
can
they
find
your
book
?
Dr. Niva
1:04:35
Billion
Dollar
Mind
is
on
Amazon
and
they
can
find
it
at
their
local
bookstore
.
I
had
someone
buy
it
from
anywhere
.
If
you
go
online
,
you
can
find
copies
of
it
,
so
they're
mostly
from
Amazon
.
Okay
,
and
it's
been
a
game
changer
for
a
lot
of
our
people
.
Rick Macci
1:04:51
I
don't
want
to
interrupt
about
the
book
.
You
can
go
back
to
it
.
Okay
,
you
can
go
back
to
it
like
it's
a
journal
where
you
can
come
back
.
You
go
back
,
you
take
notes
,
you
look
at
it
.
It's
not
just
like
one
and
done
.
You
know
,
oh
,
it's
a
great
book
.
No
people
,
this
is
like
the
gift
that
keeps
on
giving
and
people
go
back
to
it
.
It's
a
shot
of
adrenaline
and
people
go
back
to
it
.
It's
a
shot
of
adrenaline
Every
day
.
They
should
read
a
snippet
,
you
know
,
and
you
got
a
better
chance
to
get
off
on
the
right
foot
,
because
right
when
you
get
up
,
a
lot
of
times
people
are
hit
with
like
a
lot
of
different
stuff
and
if
you
get
,
like
I
said
,
when
you
get
into
that
positive
routine
,
you
become
a
machine
.
Yeah
.
Rick Macci
1:05:28
There's
a
kid's
version
and
a
regular
journal
.
Alanna
1:05:31
Oh
,
so
there's
a
kid's
version
and
a
regular
journal
.
Oh
,
so
there's
a
kid's
version
and
a
journal
.
That's
great
.
So
it
kind
of
encompasses
everyone
in
the
family
,
every
age
gap
and
generation
.
That's
fantastic
.
Audio
book
as
well
Perfect
.
Alanna
1:05:44
I
want
to
leave
with
this
little
thing
and
I'll
let
you
guys
give
your
kind
of
two
cents
on
this
too
.
I
have
started
a
.
You
know
they
have
gratitude
journals
and
,
as
someone
who
is
very
ADHD
,
journals
to
me
are
like
not
the
best
idea
because
I'll
lose
everything
in
there
.
But
if
you
have
a
calendar
and
every
day
you
just
write
down
a
little
bit
of
what
you're
thankful
for
,
a
little
bit
of
that
gratitude
,
so
every
day
you're
seeing
and
you
can
look
back
at
the
gratitude
piece
for
each
day
.
Alanna
1:06:12
And
sometimes
I
have
a
hard
time
feeling
that
gratitude
because
I'm
in
a
place
where
it's
maybe
not
that
I'm
just
kind
of
like
we
all
have
those
blah
times
,
you
know
.
But
I
will
go
back
and
I
look
at
my
calendar
of
gratitude
and
it
allows
me
to
see
what
I
can
be
grateful
for
and
reframes
that
.
So
for
those
of
us
who
struggle
just
writing
and
journaling
,
I
usually
use
a
calendar
because
it's
very
block-like
and
it's
very
clear
and
concise
and
you
can
go
back
into
time
and
look
at
the
things
that
you
have
been
grateful
for
and
can
continue
to
be
grateful
for
and
I
think
,
just
speaking
the
word
of
gratitude
so
you
know
in
my
emails
or
my
texts
,
I'm
so
thankful
for
you
.
Gratitude
,
so
you
know
in
my
emails
or
my
texts
,
I'm
so
thankful
for
you
,
I'm
so
grateful
for
you
.
I
think
that
just
makes
a
huge
difference
every
day
.
Dr. Niva
1:06:58
To
you
and
to
the
person
receiving
it
,
that
means
a
lot
.
Yeah
yeah
,
rick
always
talks
about
like
Venus
and
Serena
would
say
thank
you
every
single
time
that's
like
your
favorite
story
.
Rick Macci
1:07:09
Every
day
they
good
,
bad
,
happy
,
sad
Venus
and
Serena
.
When
they
were
kids
we'd
go
off
the
floor
and
you
know
,
just
after
six
hours
it's
like
Rick
,
thank
you
very
much
.
And
whether
it
be
a
hug
or
a
fist
pump
Now
Sharina's
fist
pump
was
a
little
more
authoritative
sometimes
,
you
know
,
she
was
like
,
you
know
that
Compton
street
fight
,
but
no
,
very
,
very
appreciative
.
But
you
just
said
something
that
would
be
great
if
people
would
write
it
down
.
But
they
don't
even
write
it
down
because
they
don't
want
to
.
They
don't
have
the
discipline
.
Now
we're
back
on
the
self-discipline
.
If
I
told
people
like
I
have
the
kids
,
you
write
this
in
your
journal
,
and
they
did
it
,
okay
.
But
if
I
said
,
if
you
write
it
in
your
journal
tonight
,
tomorrow
,
when
you
come
here
,
I'm
giving
everybody
$100
.
You
know
everybody
would
do
it
.
They
got
it
backwards
again
.
Something
shouldn't
make
you
do
it
when
it
comes
from
you
and
you
alone
.
That's
when
mental
strength
goes
on
to
a
whole
nother
orbit
.
Alanna
1:08:06
Yeah
,
thank
you
both
so
much
for
taking
the
time
to
sit
down
with
me
.
Thank
you
both
so
much
for
taking
the
time
to
sit
down
with
me
.
It's
full
of
smiles
and
laughter
and
great
skills
Building Mental Strength and Perseverance
Alanna
1:08:20
.
To
take
out
of
this
in
ways
that
we
can
shift
our
mindset
and
our
lives
and
find
real
joy
and
motivation
and
strength
and
perseverance
.
I
think
that's
a
big
thing
for
us
is
to
have
that
perseverance
and
to
not
give
up
and
not
allow
life
to
consume
us
but
to
allow
ourselves
to
have
the
mental
and
to
not
give
up
and
not
allow
life
to
consume
us
,
but
to
allow
ourselves
to
have
the
mental
strength
to
continue
going
.
So
thank
you
both
so
much
for
taking
that
time
and
breaking
that
down
and
for
writing
a
book
that
gives
us
a
tool
to
put
in
our
tool
belts
to
continue
to
learn
these
steps
how
to
be
healthier
overall
.
Humans
right
,
healthy
humans
are
happy
humans
.
Well
,
troy
,
thank
you
so
much
.
Rick Macci
1:08:54
Thanks
for
having
us
.
There's
a
lot
of
fun
.
Alanna
1:08:56
Yes
,
thank
you
.
Until
next
time
,
everyone
continue
advocating
for
you
and
for
those
that
you
love
.